Friday, January 25, 2013

The blogger career - day two

Being a parent here, in the States, can be so isolating, especially if your kids are little. Whether you are working or not, you spend every waking moment tending to their needs: you feed them and clean their rooms and clothes, you help them with their homework and projects, you take them to all these after-school activities to supplement their, at best, moderate amount of education while at the same time give them the opportunity to socialize more (as you know, play dates over the week are so rare, the idea is almost a taboo), you tend to their emotional needs, you teach them social skills, you love them relentlessly and non-stop, and then you practically whip them to bed because you are dead on your feet and you need them to fall asleep right that minute and instantaneously, and if you still have a drop of energy left you use it to take a proper bath, or (hey, a treat!) if both you and your spouse have a drop of energy left you use it for a memorable quickie; the weekends are for catching up on all the chores you couldn't fit over the week and for family time and play dates; and proper romancing and love-making is probably left for time of company bonuses or tax returns, because your nearest relatives live in three different states, each state tree states away, most of your friends have multiple kids of their own, so adding to their own herds just feels wrong, and you can only budget in a babysitter when you get additional income.

And that's why I decided to blog. I hate isolation, even a temporary one :)

PS I am soooo glad I'm not in school any more. I'd totally get an F for lack of sentence structure :)

4 comments:

  1. Agree 100% Natasa! It feels like a treadmill and I only have time for adult conversation on the weekends. It's a busy time in our lives for sure. On another note, I'd love to have regular playdates for Milos and Brian! Cheers, Christy.

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  2. It's true! I just wonder how is it less isolating in other cultures? Do you think it would be different if you were in Serbia? I guess the more family you have nearby helps. I am feeling more isolated these days. I know it is a season (a seemingly loooong one) but it can be difficult. And I am always open to a playdate too. Pearl and Johnny would LOVE to see your kids! I think choosing to blog is a good idea, it was a great outlet for me at one time and like I said, you might just inspire me to start up again.

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  3. Christy and Annie, back home in Serbia, kids go to school, come home and do homework, and you go somewhere: play with friends (who are almost always your neighbors), or you visit family that, in most cases live in the same town. And for the parents, you sit for a coffee and chat with someone 6 out of 7 days a week. That is what I mean when I talk about play dates. There are no play dates there. You just knock on your friend's or neighbor's door. Having a full house most of the time is what I was used to, and I miss it. I miss it! I know I can call people days or weeks ahead, but that can never substitute the spontaneous interaction. Here when you meet whit someone, you spend more time catching up on events than sharing your life, your emotions, getting inspired and encouraged by that friend of yours. Or at least, that is my experience. I am sure plenty of people here live differently, so this could be just "an immigrant's tale" :)

    And I know I can always call you, ladies :) And my kids love hanging out with yours!

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  4. I was genuinely curious, I think other cultures have the whole community living thing down better than we do in the U.S. or Southern California, anyways. I wish I were more open to spontaneous meetings but it's almost impossible when my friends are not my neighbors and sadly weekend are the one time I get to do most if any of my cleaning and see my husband. Anyways, we need to plan a "spontaneous" get together soon! haha!

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